Marriage preparation.. A tedious process..!

Note: All the penned details below are from the root of Hindu, Telugu traditions. I excuse if it hurts anyone!

Minimum eligibility criteria for a marriage Boy Vs Girl

Boy, should be holding master’s degree and should be working in a good reputed company and drawing some reasonable salary to manage the family in metros.. Added advantages if he knows any additional language, and holding some properties and better backups., Largely these seems to be a general expectations of girls family.. In some rare cases its better boy should also know how to cook!!?

Girl, Cooking and all become a old fashion now a days, may be it could be a question on the occasion for a formality., but they should be looking good, and holding reasonable degree post graduate most preferable and it depends.. 

I personally disagree the dowry system, Many has an incorrect feeling or misunderstanding w.r.t the way the dowry is been shared, A - People justify the reason saying all the dowry which we are demanding is for her future.. Come-on who is she?? She is gonna be your better half, She is gonna multiply y/our family and Wife is been kept next to your mother! it's up to girls family background or capability to share whatever they wish to do for the girl, Fact Fact Fact Fact Fact..!! [People who has seen "OK OK" will understand why I am using Fact repeatedly] Why should we demand someone to pay this much, share in the property and Car etc., Boys could be generous and should not demand on this.

Marriage preparation starts with Horoscope matching, first level background verification form both the ends and photos sharing, I am happy to see this habit across our circle that when boy and girl shows the green flag for the photo, only then parents start doing the second level verification and arranging some friends/relatives to meet the guy if he is working in metros., then on successful visit and positive feedback, formal visit to the boy house will happen, 4-5 people visit Boy's house and have an informal discussion with the boy and their parents and decide the dates when boy can visit the Girl's house with his friends and relatives, 

This is gonna be interesting for some time, boy and girl's friends & relatives take this opportunity to to kid them, tease them and do whatever they wish to do, the sound of this could be the "tit for tat" of what the boy or girl would've done to their friends/relatives before.. :P This goes until they get married..

And the day arrives here when boy is okay with the girl and going for settlement/engagement/betrothal.. Or in other words "Bonding for the life time". Here we see many interesting traditional checks for the girl, when boy visit the girls house, many jokes get cracked here and there most probably from the boys side, so sad., poor girl get examined in many ways, like Can the girl sing? Can she dance?  Can she cook? if there are instant answers form the girl's end she might escape else even some funny questions may arise like, can she talk??

Then comes very interesting and eagerly waiting time when boy and girl are allowed to talk for the first time for some couple of minutes, just to get to know each other quickly and every ones expectation is of a positive result saying Yes we are ready to bind each other and get locked.. Of course it’s wedlock for good cause!!

With the simple answer Yes. the girl and boy family members get a new relationships with in a minute the relations count grows like anything, all these magic can happen only because of the wedding..

Enjoy Reading,

~ Karthik

Power of Fear..!

Someone has to give proper respect to their fear, this could be a dialogue from Karthik's movie "Siruthai" but when you drill down on this little more, there could be some strong meaning behind this, when I was in the process of doing such thing, I got this in my mind and I am summarizing here now..

A sense of Fear: Fear can do anything, fear can change anyone, fear can change someone to do something which they might never aware of before, or never thought of doing so, never had an interest to do, may be never had such habit.. Likewise I can keep listing the power of fear(a state), 

How fear can modulate or shake someone, Consider civilians are travelling in a flight, they wouldn't have much fear while traveling in a flight given that this is not their first air journey as this is just an luxury public transportation to them, however if a Pilot travels in the same flight he might have knowingly or unknowingly lot of fear about the journey as he must be knowing nook and corners of the flight he might not travel so easy as he  would be thinking about the controls or the safety measures or what is the wind level, is co-pilot is capable of handling hurdles, how is the signal levels to the pilot whether the reader is doing what it supposed to.. blah blah blah.. 

This is not a disease but this is a habit.. Rite from the day one we are been created due to fear and we cry as soon we step in to this earth may be, may be! due to fear of insecure feeling, and rite from day one the sense of fear is been passed from baby to mother/father as they have to grow their kid in this competitive, corrupted and polluted earth., and when the baby grown up he/she may have a fear of rejection, in terms of Education, Job, Love or so many reasons.. 

Likewise, I would like to share some of my experience.., Before I share my experience I would like to thank some of my friend and my mom & dad who made me to actually feel and understand a state of fear which enabled me to write such a lengthy article about the sense of Fear, I personally felt this sense very recently when I am planning to move to the next level of responsible position in my life., Hope you understand., what else it could be on the end of adolescence other than a marriage., 

When an adult I mean a bachelor is about to get marry he has to prepare himself in so many ways, he have to look back and defiantly do the gap analysis to find out the actual gaps and fill it on the rite time., Which basically helps him a lot once he really get married and holding bigger responsibility of a promotion called "Husband" and in few years "Father" and in few decades "Grand Father" etc., I’m just helping with a candle light, there could be many items to prepare or plan.,

Come-on guys if you are still sleeping.., wake up now, I reckon this could be an eye opener for many, even if it helps one I would be really happy with that. Thanks for your time and let me share this.

~ Enjoy reading,

Karthik R